Bisexuality - It Does Exist!

Today at work Ruth started going on about how there is no such thing as bisexual. (Isn't the first time she said it.) (I am sick of hearing it from her.) She says that a true gay person will tell you that. Her sister his gay and says it. I have to roll my eyes up at this. There is such a thing as bisexual. Bi means two, like a bicycle. Being bisexual means you like both genders. Male and female. Yes it is possible to like both genders. I gave Ruth a scenario of a person sleeping with both genders and she replied that they are in denial. That you either are gay or you are not and if you sleep with the other gender then you are not being real with yourself. I also gave her a scenario and said, "Oh. So If I slept with another woman I would still be straight." She said no. That I would be gay. She contradicted what she was saying. WHATEVER!! Bi is bi. You are still gay but you like both genders and you really can like both genders. That being said.....*raspberry*

Here are some links on the subject of bisexuals.
(I am so right!! In your face Ruth!!!) *raspberry*

http://www.uua.org/obgltc/resource/bi101.html

BISEXUALITY IS LEGITIMATE. Non-bisexual persons sometimes assume that bisexuals are "really heterosexual" or "really homosexual" and cannot make up their minds, or that bisexual persons are merely curious. Though this phenomenon may be true for some, it is not a necessary or typical characteristic of bisexual people.


http://web.indstate.edu/community/TeenTH/bisexmyths.html

MYTH:Bisexuals are denying their lesbianism or gayness.

TRUTH: Bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation which incorporates gayness. Most bisexuals consider themselves part of the generic term "gay." Many are quite active in the gay community, both socially and politically. Some use terms such as "bisexual lesbian" to increase visibility on both issues.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality

DescriptionBisexual orientation can fall anywhere between the two extremes of homosexuality and heterosexuality; a bisexual person is not necessarily attracted equally to both genders, and many tend to prefer one or the other. Another view of bisexuality is that homosexuality and heterosexuality are two monosexual orientations, whereas bisexuality encompasses them both. However, some argue that bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation in its own right.

Individuals attracted to both males and females, like people of any other orientation, may live a variety of sexual lifestyles. These include: lifelong monogamy, serial monogamy, polyamory, polyfidelity, casual sexual activity with individual partners, casual group sex, and celibacy. For those with more than one sexual partner, these may or may not be all be of the same gender.

Some bisexual people consider themselves to be gay or lesbian -- for example, a bisexual woman who considers herself a lesbian may do so on the basis that a lesbian might be defined as any woman who is attracted to women (even one who is also attracted to men), or a woman who is primarily attracted to other women. Some lesbian and gay people object, asserting that exclusivity is part of the definition. Other bisexuals consider themselves distinct from homosexuals but part of the larger LGBT or queer community. Some bisexuals may be supportive of lesbian and gay people, but still consider themselves straight, and still others consider any labels irrelevant to their situations.


http://miperson.netfirms.com/bimyths.htm

Myth: Bisexuality doesn't really exist. People who consider themselves bisexuals are going through a phase/ confused/ undecided/ fence sitting. Ultimately they'll settle down and realize they're actually homosexual or heterosexual.

Reality: Some people go through a transitional period of bisexuality on their way to adopting a lesbian/gay or heterosexual identity. For many others bisexuality remains a long-term orientation. For some bisexuals, homosexuality was a transitional phase in their coming out as bisexuals. Many bisexuals may well be confused, living in a society where their sexuality is denied by homosexuals and heterosexuals alike, but that confusion is a function of oppression. Fence-sitting is a misnomer; there is no "fence" between homosexuality and heterosexuality except in the minds of people who rigidly divide the two.

Myth: Bisexuality doesn't really exist. People who consider themselves bisexuals are actually lesbian/gay, but haven't fully accepted themselves and finished coming out of the closet (acknowledging their attraction to people of the same gender.)

Reality: Bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation. Many bisexuals are completely out of the closet, but not on the lesbian/gay community's terms. (It is worth noting that many lesbians and gay men are not completely out of the closet and their process is generally respected; it is also worth noting that the lesbian/gay community whose "terms" are in question here has tended to be quite different for working class lesbians, gays of color, etc.) Bisexuals in this country share with lesbians and gays the debilitating experience of heterosexism (the assumption that everyone is heterosexual and thereby rendering other sexual identities invisible) and homophobia (the hatred, fear, and discrimination against homosexuals.)


http://www.ccsu.edu/healthservice/General%20Information/MythsOfBisexuality.htm

Myth: Bisexuals are denying their lesbianism or gayness.

Truth: Bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation, which incorporates gayness. Most bisexuals consider themselves part of the generic term "gay." Many are quite active in the gay community, both socially and politically. Some of us use terms such as "bisexual lesbian" to increase our visibility on both issues.

Myth: Bisexuals are confused about their sexuality.

Truth: It is natural for both bisexuals and gays to go through a period of confusion in the coming-out process. When you are an oppressed people and are constantly told that you don’t exist, confusion is an appropriate reaction until you come out to yourself and find a supportive environment.

**It is important to remember that bisexual, gay, lesbian, and heterosexual are labels created by a homophobic, biphobic, heterosexist society to separate and alienate us from each other. We are all unique; we don’t fit into neat little categories. We sometimes need to use these labels for political reasons and to increase our visibilities. Our sexual esteem is facilitated by acknowledging and accepting the differences and seeing the beauty in our diversity.